Tuesday, 28 February 2017

A Woman Should Have.

So it’s only February and 2017 has already been a crazy start to the year. But I promised myself I would be consistent with my blog this year .. so here it goes.

Shout out to those of you who are going through a difficult time. Keep your head up! The storm will pass and it won’t last forever. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. The key to obtaining success is being able to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. So if you haven’t had a great start to 2017, don’t lose that drive and motivation.

I came across this verse on social media and thought it was such a good read that I wanted to share it on my blog.  So if you are in need of some inspiration and guidance early into the year, then give this a read J :) ^_^
 
 

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

 Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own
 even if she never wants to
 or needs to...
 Something perfect to wear if the employer
 or date of her dreams wants to See Her in an hour...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

 A youth she's content to leave behind...
 A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
 retelling it in her Old Age ...  


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE…

 A set of screwdrivers,
 a cordless drill, and a black lace bra ...
 One friend who always makes her laugh...
 And one who lets her cry...


A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...

 A good piece of furniture not previously owned
 by anyone else in her Family...
 Eight matching plates,
 wine glasses with stems,
 And a recipe for a meal that will make
 her guests feel honoured...
 A feeling of control over her destiny...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 How to fall in love without losing herself…
 HOW TO QUIT A JOB,
 BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,
 AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT
 RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...
 When to try harder...
 And WHEN TO WALK AWAY...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 That she can't change the length of her calves,
 The width of her hips,
 or the nature of her parents…
 That her childhood may not have been perfect...
 But it's over...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
 How to live alone...
 Even if she doesn't like it...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 Whom she can trust,
 Whom she can't,
 And why she shouldn't take it personally...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 Where to go...
 Be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
 Or a charming inn in the woods...
 When her soul needs soothing...


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

 What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
 A month...
 And a year...
 
Written by Pamela Redmond Satran

Monday, 30 January 2017

Hello World.



Hey guys! Hope you all had a great Christmas and you are all having a great start to the New Year! I can’t believe its 2017! Time is moving way too fast! 2016 has definitely been a bit of rollercoaster! I have had some great moments, where I managed to do some travelling. Additionally I completed my masters degree, which was a huge achievement for me. But as some of you guys will also know from previous blog posts, I’ve had a few lows too. My psychology career wasn’t going anywhere, neither was my relationship and this led me to think ‘What’s next?’ I felt a bit lost. This led me to neglect my blog whilst I tried to focus on other areas of my life. It all became a bit overwhelming.

Despite all of this, 2016 ended quite well. I managed to land myself a new job. I am now working in a psychology related field which is great, because there are quite a lot of opportunities for progression. I’ve been there since November and although I still feel like a bit of an outsider in my new role, I’m going to work hard to achieve me goals!
I know a lot of people who don’t like to jump on the ‘New year, new me’ bandwagon. But a new year is a good time to start fresh. Spending time with family and friends over Christmas and New Year’s, I’ve had time to put things into perspective and think about what I want to achieve in life. I’m not perfect, far from it. I know I have a lot of changes that I need to make in order to be happy. But from giving it a lot of thought, now is the best time to start a new life journey. Have I worked out all the kinks? No. But if I don’t embark on a new journey now while I’m (relatively) young, then I might miss my opportunity. I’m taking small steps to work on my issues. I’m not worried though, I will get there in the end.

So now that 2017 is here, what’s the next move?

I have a lot of goals that I want to achieve in 2017. Getting the ball rolling with my psychology career, moving out into my own space, learning the piano, as well a learning a language to name a few. Although I really cannot decide which language I want to learn, as there are so many I’m interested in.

I also can’t wait to start blogging, I’ve got loads that I want to share with you all! From fashion, to beauty trends that I’ve tried and sharing my life experiences with you! So do keep a look out for upcoming post!

What do you want to achieve in 2017? Do share and comment below!

Thanks for reading!

Thursday, 27 October 2016

My Adventures in Croatia: A Basic Guide.


Hey guys! So great news! I got my results from my masters course, and I am proud to say that I left university with a merit! I’m so happy with this news, because at the time, leaving with a merit seemed so unattainable. I really did not enjoy the course as much as I would have liked and had very little support. So I just want to say congratulations to everyone who completed the course.

In celebration of completing the course, my friend Lulu and I, went on a trip to Croatia. It was a really good, yet weird trip that I will never forget.

So here we are, on the plane, getting ready to embark on our journey. So excited!
 
For the most part of the trip, we stayed in split. Split is an amazing town which lies on Croatia’s Dalmatian coast. Whilst in Split, there are loads of historical attractions to see. It is worth paying to do a walking tour of the area. Not only is this a great way to get to know the area, but you also gain a deeper understanding of the history and what it is exactly that you are looking at. Although we had an idea of what we wanted to do and see whilst we were in Split, the walking tour did really help in planning the rest of our itinerary. Just make sure that you try and get the best price for your walking tour. There were so many companies that offered them. Some were charging ridiculous prices, knowing that the area attracts loads of tourists. So make sure you shop around and don’t just go with the first company that you see.



It was great seeing the Cathedral of St. Domnius and climbing the bell tower of St. Duje. This is a well preserved ancient Roman building which is a major symbol of the city. Here you can enjoy some amazing views.
You can also see the temple of Jupiter which is an intact Ancient Roman temple. It was dedicated to the king of the Gods and it still has its original barrel vaulted ceiling.
One the most iconic statues in Split is the Gregorius of Nin Statue. Sculpted by Ivan Meštrović, Gregorius of Nin fought for the right to use old Croatian in liturgical services. If you ever go to visit this statue, you will notice that the big toe of the left foot has been polished to a shine. It is thought that rubbing the toe will bring you good luck and guarantees that you will return back to Split. (I made sure I rubbed the hell out of that toe!)

 

Diocletian’s Palace is at the heart of the city. It is comprised of Roman ruins which lead to other areas of the city such as bars, shops and restaurants. The construction lasted over 10 years and embraces marble from Italy and Greece, alongside columns and sphinxes from Egypt.
With a lot of the main tourist attractions you have to pay an admission fee. However, don’t get caught out and pay separately for each attractions. Normally, what you can do is purchase a ticket that allows you to see several attractions for a set price. This works out a lot cheaper. 
 
 
If you want to do some souvenir shopping or grab some fresh fruit and veg, there is also the green markets which also worth taking a little gander at.

If you’re feeling adventurous and enjoy a good trek, I highly recommend climbing Marjan Hill. It is the highest peak in Split. This isn’t for the faint hearted though. This trek, depending on the route you take can take a good few hours and entails a lot of stairs. The hill can be deceiving, as at one point, I thought I had reached the top. I even did the iconic Rocky Balboa where I ran to what I thought was the top, fist in the air singing the rocky anthem. Turned out, I wasn’t even half way there! But the great thing about this is that there are many activities that you can do on the hill. There is a national park and zoo there. When you get to the top, you get to see the Croatian flag which proudly stands on the highest peak.
 
On the edge of the harbour, there are load of restaurants you can eat at. You will be spoilt for choice. And when you decide you want to kick back late in the evening for a drink. There is the infamous Ghetto Club which is a bohemian style bar hidden between the Roman walls. If your not really a drinker but want to find other ways to relax, you can also head down to the beach.



Additionally there are loads of museums you can visit, such as the ethnographic museum and there loads of entertainment such as the Croatian national theatre.

Once you are bored of split, it is easy to venture out to other neighbouring cities. You can get guided tours to different destinations. Two places that were on our list were the Krka Waterfalls and Dubrovnik. I can’t emphasise enough how much you need to shop around here. The Villa that we stayed in tried to charge us €120 to go the Krka Waterfalls and €220 to go the Dubrovnik. Well guess what? We went to the Waterfalls for approximately €30 and Dubrovnik €14! Talk about a bargain!

 

When we did our tour Krka, it involved seeing Skradin and Sibernik. There was also a boat ride too. No photo could ever do the waterfalls justice. It was such an amazing view! You can even swim in the waterfalls. I really wanted to but the water was way too cold. I really enjoyed Sibnerik, as I was able to see some of the areas where they shoot the tv series Game of Thrones.
 
Dubrovnik was great but really really expensive. I was quite shocked at the difference in prices between Split and Dubrovnik. Getting to Dubrovnik from Split involves a 4 hour coach journey. One thing I wished someone had told us prior to the journey is that, if you go there you need to take your passports! Reason being that the is a small bit of land outside of Dubrovnik which is owned by Bosnia. So you have to go through Bosnia and go through passport control. Additionally there is no other way to get to Dubrovnik. Luckily we carried ours with us.

 
There’s loads to do here like climb the city walls, and there are also opportunities to do Game of thrones tours. Dubrovnik is literally swarming with tourists though, so if that isn’t your sort of thing you may be better off in split.



If you have the money and the time, you can also visit the many islands that reside around Croatia. There are over a thousand islands surrounding the country. So take your pick!
Lastly, regardless of which part of Croatia you go to, if you are a student take your student card with you! I left mine back in the UK, and I ended up paying 4 times what Lulu would pay for certain attractions simply because she bought her student card with her!

Hope you guys found this useful and enjoyed the photos! If you are lucky enough, the captain of the plane might even let you sit in the cockpit!


Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Adidas N.M.D



That’s it guys! Uni is officially over! I couldn’t be more relieved. It has been such a stressful year; I’m glad I can kick back and relax for a bit. I’m just waiting for the results, so let’s all hope (& pray) that I get the results that I want.

In celebration of completing my masters I treated myself to a new pair of kicks. The Adidas N.M.D’s. These have become extremely popular because of their lightweight and stylish design.
 


 
N.M.D stands for Nomad and these trainers are comprised of two of Adidas’ most popular technologies: Primeknit and boost. This explains why this particular trainer has a sock light appearance with a foam like sole.


 
I bought these in the junior section (due to my small feet) and retail at £75.00.


 

Thanks for reading!

Sunday, 24 July 2016

At a Crossroads.




‘It’s my second year into blogging and I’m still not getting the hang of it. This year hasn’t been as consistent as the last. I’ve been plagued with my master course and decisions that feel more like a life sentence rather than a rite of passage into adulthood.’

This isn’t my usual blog post. Normally I would be posting about something girly, like some new clothes that I have purchased, a new book that may have caught my attention or an adventurous trip that I had embarked on. No this post is a bit different.

The last few months haven’t been easy. I’m 26 years old and still trying to find my feet. Still trying to find where I fit in and where I belong. As I scroll through Facebook and Instagram, it feels like everyone has got their lives together. I see friends in relationships and having kids, people with great careers and buying houses & people with their team of friends hashtag #SquadGoals.

Then there is me. Well on my way to 27, still single (its complicated), still nowhere near having my dream job and not really found my squad,  my ride or die that are always up for a party or movie marathon. I guess I’m still young but as I get older, it feels like everyone is moving on.

Most of my good friends live in London, while I residue in Birmingham. When I was 18, I really felt like I had found myself. Back in school and college I didn’t really feel like I could be ‘me’. People were so judgemental, I had to be or act a certain way just to fit in. But when I left for university to study my undergrad in Psychology, I was young, carefree and confident. I took the plunge and moved to the big city which was great. I met new people all the time. And I guess I had my squad. My team of bad bitches (we were good girls really) and the world, felt like it was my oyster. I discovered my love for anime, Korean dramas, K-pop and Kimchi Jeon ^_^
 
 
But then the years flew by and uni was over. I graduated with a 2:1 in BSc (hons) Psychology and I couldn’t be more thrilled. I wasn’t thinking too much about the next step in life. I was just tired of education and wanted to work. There was no life plan. Just make money, then use that money to make more money and repeat the process. I moved back to Birmingham, mainly because London was way too expensive to live and my boyfriend at the time (now ex - and very happy with that!) was there too. I planned to stay in touch with my friends. We just had to, we were close and there was no way we weren’t going to.

But things didn’t go as planned. I had difficulties dealing with the breakup of my ex. I then jumped hastily into another relationship which alone had its issues and then the depression sank in. I was at such a low point in my life and I really couldn’t understand why. That’s the thing with depression. It’s an illness. For some people it’s like the common cold - it comes for a bit but then it goes. Nothing serious. Then there are those who get it like the flu. And it doesn’t matter how much you try to fight it, it just won’t go.

I think this really affected me… this period of my life. Even though I was working and making money, it wasn’t enough to just exist. I wanted to explore, live life and have a job that I ACTUALLY enjoyed! Nevertheless I persisted.

I got invited to go to my dream destination, Japan - with a good friend of mine, which ended disastrously. My friend and I didn’t get on very well, which was such a shame. To be honest I’m not really sure what went wrong. We met up with some of her friends there, and I think there was a lack of communication between my friend and I, I don’t know. Maybe my depression had an impact? It was such a shame because I got on so well with her and sisters. I was genuinely upset at the time because I felt like I had lost a good friend. I don’t hold anything against her though. It just is what is it I guess.

After a while I was able to move on from the depression, but eventually it began to turn into anxiety and I feel like that has been a part of my life ever since. My remaining friends in London were very supportive. I had friends in Birmingham too but it wasn’t the same. We would only catch up when we could which was often once in a blue moon.

I decided I need to do something with my life, especially since other career options hadn’t worked out for me. It was at this point I decided to do a masters. What did I have to lose? It wouldn’t hurt to do one and it could only further my career. So four years down the line I decided to do a masters in Cognitive Neuroscience. I applied and was offered a place. At the time I had so much going on. I was offered a position and as assistant psychologist (yay) and I had booked a holiday to Korea, which was also on my dream destination list and I had the best time! You can view some of my photos here. I went with one of best friends and met so many people out there. People I still stay in touch with even a year later. I didn’t want to come back. I just wanted to stay there forever! I was able to just escape for a while.
 
 

But then I came back to reality. And now I have a month left of my masters and guess what? It was a complete waste of time. It hasn’t help me get further into my career, I’m just a girl with a masters. I’ve tried reaching out to my friends but they are all too busy living their own lives. And I completely understand that. We have to move forward and progress, and I’m happy for them all and wish them nothing but the best in life. Now I feel stuck.

I feel stuck because I feel like there isn’t anyone that is there, stuck because I don’t have a job I enjoy and I wasted time and money doing a masters hoping it would get me such. I feel stuck because I’m still in the exact same position I was 4 years ago .. but worst off. Back to square one. Now I’m just considering chucking up deuces to world, packing my shit and departing to Korea for a year to teach English like I’m writing a ‘dear John letter’. What have I got to lose? Will anyone even notice or care if I’m gone?

It’s something I have thought about for a while, but there is so much to consider. Like although my masters experience hasn’t been great, I still have my experience as an assistant psychologist, am I ruining my chances by leaving? Am I ready to pack up my life and move over there? I’m not the young 21 year old that I used to be, shouldn’t I be thinking about finding ‘Mr Right’ and settling down? Why do I over think EVERYTHING?! Why can’t I be the adventurous, confident girl I used to be when I was 18. Has life got the better of me?

But you want to know the moral of all of this?

 ‘Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or even the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are ..’

It’s easy to over think everything and often wonder if you are making the right decision. It’s natural to think I’d be happy if I had this, or if I had that. But true happiness will never come to you that way. I’m still learning to be happy and content with my life and to implement small changes to improve and build on myself. Small progress is still progress.

So I guess for now, I’m just going to take it a step at a time and just work on me. I’m still trying to find myself, and on a long journey of self-discovery. For now I think I need to concentrate on finishing this masters before I think about embarking on another life journey.

If you are still reading this after such a long memoir of my life, then I would like to thank you for reading and sticking in there! Whatever you are going through in life, just always remember. Nothing in life is fixed or permanent .. change is always possible ..’


Thanks for reading!

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Book Magic.

Hey guys! So last month was really hectic. I took a month off from blogging so that I could concentrate on uni. I had exams throughout May, which was really daunting. But fingers crossed I won’t have to retake and I will leave with the grades that I want. Embarking on this master’s course has been a real challenge with more downs than ups. But in three months’ time I will be finished for good and can move on to the next stage of my life.

Since exams are over I wanted to take a little break from the neuropsychology books (although I should really be starting the write up for my thesis). With the release of the new Harry Potter book, the cursed child part I and II, I thought I would get reacquainted with the books. I began reading them but never finished the full collection. Whilst I previously owned a few of the books, I was missing three. So with a quick search on eBay I was able to complete my collection with the original versions. I now own all seven books with four first editions!


For a while now I have become a bit of a book worm. I have always dreamt about owning a house which was big enough for me to have a library and a Freudian style chair, to sit in and relax while selecting a book at whim to read and enjoy. I recently stumbled across the Everyman's Library Children's Classic books. Classic children books bring back so many memories from childhood. One of my favourites is the BFG.
 

I love the design of the book. The outside is fabric and not like your typical book.

 
The design down the side makes it look really smart.



Additionally it contains all the artwork from the original book.



Everyman’s library do a selection of children’s classics which are all part of the same design. I can’t wait to start collecting more and building the collection.


The BFG film is going to be released soon too. I hope it is as a good as the book!

Thanks for reading.

Thursday, 31 March 2016

A trip to Stonehenge and Bath.

At the start of the month, my university arranged a trip to Stonehenge and Bath. I was really excited as I had never been to either place before. For those who may not be familiar with Stonehenge, it is a world famous pre-historic monument which is located in Wiltshire, England. Work began in the Neolithic Age and for the next thousands of years changes were made. The last changes were made during the Bronze Age. It is still not known why Stonehenge was built. But archaeologists believe that it may have been a burial ground, temple or medical healing centre.

When I first arrived at Stonehenge, I was surrounded by huts. It was presumed that the people who built Stonehenge lived in similar surroundings.
 
There is a museum which tells you a lot of information about the structure.
 
In order to get to the monument itself, we had to take a shuttle bus which takes you right outside.



I wasn’t quite sure on what to expect. The rocks were quite big, but you can only get so close before you reach some sort of barrier. You were unable to touch them which was slightly disappointing. But the structure is quite fragile as there is only so much of it remaining.
 

Taking photos was really difficult because it was so windy that my eyes were constantly watering!
 
Overall it was a good experience, and I learned a lot.
 

Bath was my favourite part of the trip.  It is a town located in the Southwest of England renowned for its natural hot springs and 18th century Georgian architecture. It has a high ranking University there so is well known for being a town that is student orientated. There is also a lot to see and do such as visit the museum, view the Roman baths and enjoy a contemporary bath spa.

 

 
In Bath I had lunch, and got to view the scenery.
 
I found a street that shared my last name, so naturally I took a picture ^_^
 
The sunset was amazing! I managed to get some stunning photos.
 
I would love to make a trip back there during the summer!
 
As much as I enjoyed Stonehenge, it is the kind of place you only visit once. However I will definitely be arranging another trip to Bath!
Thanks for reading!
 

Monday, 29 February 2016

10 of the best uses for coconut oil.



In recent years coconut oil has become a bit of a craze. Initially it had quite a bad reputation for containing unhealthy saturated fats. However we now know that this is not simply the case. Coconut oil has many benefits and it is not limited to tropical countries. Many people everywhere are discovering the marvels of this oil. As a result, it has a new found fame and for good reasons too. Here are just some of the benefits and uses for coconut oil.


1. Hair growth


I cannot emphasis this one enough! For years I have struggled with hair growth with my hair being in quite a bad state. I continuously suffered from a dry scalp and my hair wouldn’t grow past shoulder length. But after using coconut oil my hair is now bra strap length and in only a short amount of time too. My scalp is healthy and clear. I have tried almost every oil to help my hair grow including jojoba oil, almond oil, avocado oil. You name it I’ve tried it. But coconut oil gave me the best results. Personally I think it is the holy grail of hair growth and I refuse to use anything else on my head. It makes hair shiny and prevents protein loss for healthier hair. Try using it as a pre-treatment before shampooing by leaving it in overnight and washing it out the next morning.

2. Prevent split ends


Coconut oil is great for preventing split ends and for taming ones that are already splitting. As well as using coconut oil as a pre-treatment I also use a little bit every day in my hair too. I use two different types. I use fractionated coconut oil for everyday use and pure Sri Lankan coconut oil for pre-treatments. The Sri Lankan coconut oil is pure and solidifies when it is cold. So needs to be warmed slightly before use. Fractionated coconut oil stays runny. They both differ in the processes used to produce the oil but both still really good. For everyday use I just take a very small amount and run it through my hair, especially the ends. Just remember a little goes a long way!

3. Pre-cleanser

Coconut oil can help to remove stubborn make-up, dirt and grime. It is also gentle on skin. I like using natural oils as oppose to the harmful chemicals that can be found in some make up removers and cleansers. Just take a small amount on to the ends of fingers and massage it into the skin. Then rinse and follow with a normal foam cleanser for skin that feels refreshed.

4. Moisturiser


It can help relieve and hydrate dry skin. It can also help with other skin related complaints such as eczema and sunburn.

5. Stretch Marks

Coconut oil can prevent stretch marks as well as improve the look of older ones. I’ve also found that this has helped to even out my skin tone. Just massage into the affected areas.

6. Cellulite

As well as helping improve stretch marks it can help improve the appearance of cellulite. Daily use can give you real results. As much as I love coconut oil I love my daily moisturiser too. So I just add some oil to my moisturiser to reap the benefits.

7. Oral health


A bit of a weird one but coconut oil has many benefits for oral health. I have tried using coconut oil on my teeth a couple of times and I have found that it has helped to whiten them. Heard of cocowhite? It is a product that is really popular amongst celebrities such as a Kylie Jenner (I’m not a fan) to whiten teeth. But the ingredient in the product is simply coconut oil. It just has added peppermint oil or lemon oil for taste. That is it! You can purchase the product from their website or you could just buy some coconut oil and do it yourself for half the price. Furthermore coconut oil is anti-bacterial and anti-viral, so it can kill bacteria stuck between teeth. It also facilitates in the absorption calcium.

8. Weight Loss

Due to the composition of coconut oil it can help aid in weight loss. It contains short and medium fatty chain acids which research has shown that it can help reduced obesity in women. Having spoonful before meals can also curb hunger so that you are less likely to overeat.

9. Fitness


Coconut oil can give you an immediate source of energy when consumed. In addition it can increase stamina during work outs and speed recovery after exercise.

10. Cooking

Cooking with coconut oil is becoming extremely popular because it doesn’t produce harmful by products when heated like other oils. It also makes a healthier alternative.

Coconut oil really is a miracle oil so if you haven’t started incorporating this is into your routine then grab yourself a bottle and make a start!

Thanks for reading.

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